Sunday a Day of Rest

To all:

We're all resting today. Sharon is resting and Lily slept in - she stayed up reading but she feels rested. She's over at grandma Gerry's cutting out the dress for her 8th grade graduation party.  I have some pictures there and I'll post them this afternoon.

About Sharon - I've been relucant to talk a lot of her condition in detail but I feel more ok with doing so now. 

Like Justin posted earlier, we all found ourselves thick with expectation to see a more immediate change, really pulling for one more chance to have Sharon open her eyes.  The reality of the importance of patience is with us now and I feel more at ease when I'm sitting there with her.   As Stanley says, she may tune into you more if you're relaxed and exploring your own sense of self, peace, kindness and beauty. It's something she so strongly resonates in herself so find that place for yourself today - just as it is and enjoy and relax. She will be back. This I know is what she wants for all.

Lily and I were talking last night. In many ways this (Sharon being absent from our home) is so familiar. When Sharon would travel to New Zealand or South Africa she would be gone 2-3 weeks.  We'd have 5-7 days go by at times before we would hear from her. It was very difficult for her to get a phone or write an email. And, she always came back and told us so many amazing stories about her travels. We're looking to hear all about these too.

Here are some things you may want to know about Sharon's medical situation as best I can explain. The first couple of days (after settingly from the trauma) she was having very noticable seizures every few minutes.  The doctors put her back on a medication to calm those down, and this mixture has a strong sedative inside it. So, she really is sleeping now for 1-3 days and it's sleep I believe she really really needs.

The CT scan from Saturday revealed some swelling and no bleeding. So we breathed a sigh of relief on that part.

All her organs are fine. Color is good. Temperature is normal now, chemistry is normal, heart rate and blood pressure is fine. All is fine while she sleeps.

According to Gerry (I'm paraphrasing here) Sharon will be weaned off this anti-seizure medication and put on something else that does not have a sedative. This will occur in around 48 hrs.  Then slowly they will change the breathing machine to give her a chance to start breathing on her own.

Knowing Sharon the way I do - I've seen her go inside a find a place to heal herself. On those times when the family was sick with flu she would find her way to heal herself and so often it worked. She's always sought doctors (traditional and untraditional) that she could have a personal connection - in the rather unique way Sharon can see and feel into a person - she wanted to sense what was coming from the doctor too to meet her on her level. I remember times when she found a doctor that wasn't on her wavelength (big or small) - she didn't return, ever, when that happened.

There have been times when she was ill and she took a large blanket and sleep outside on the ground. The next day, she felt and looked 100% better.  I reae this current trauma isn't something she can handle this way. I know, though, that Sharon has her mysterous side that can connect and heal in ways I've yet to really understand. This I'll say again is part of why I love her so much.

I am certain this week is difficult for Sharon with all the medications pulsing through her body.  She isn't allergic to things but she's never been one to take medications unless truly needed and only in small amounts.

I know Sharon is and will want to be off at least the stronger medications as soon as it makes sense. I know she's going to want to seek ways to heal herself and she will do that - I am sure. For now, though, we're holding her hand as she walks through this darkness.

It's a glorious Sunday. Temperature in Austin is in the 70s and a fine breeze is present. I'm headed up to see Sharon now.

All my love
Tom

Comments

[Steve Crossland]

Dear Tom, Lily and Family,

Thanks for the updates.

Of course we are all hoping and praying for joyous and special news, but like you, we've settled into a more patient wait, and an acceptance that the timetable is Sharon's, not ours.

We hope you can feel our love and support from across the street, and we'll keep checking in with you now and then.

For the Crossland Family,
Steve

[dianamakens]

To Sharon, Tom, Justin, Lily, Gerry, and family,
Our hearts are full of memory, gratitude, patience, prayer, and love for you all. See this one family (that has truly been transformed in many ways by your family) holding your hands. Rest, sweet precious ones. We love you,
]Diana and Bill Makens, Cindy, Katy, Missy, James, Mike, John, and Chris.

[.]

We are all thinking about her, sending loving thoughts, knowing that Sharon is now in the hands of something greater (as we all are, all the time, only right now it's a bit more obvious!).

Love is the answer.

[Reppy Kirkilis]

Tom, Lily, Justin, and Gerry...I've read all the blog entries this morning and have been crying as I read...partly because of what Sharon and you are all going through...but also because of the incredibly fierce and profound love, respect, and admiration that you all have for one another, and I am deeply moved.

You are all blessed by the love you have for Sharon and she has for you. She is, as you said, Tom, working in her perfect time on restoring herself in partnership with the allies in the spiritual world. I wish and pray for her full recovery and continued wellness and for this process to only strengthen and heal you all.

Much love, Reppy Kirkilis

[Stephanie Barko]

Tom-

You are moving through this beautifully. Sharon's spirit is so familiar to you that you are communicating to hers through yours.

Please give the Angie/Stacy/Midge/Connie show
my cyberaddress, and I'll bake you something in Sharon's honor.

Stay in the moment,
Stephanie Barko
steffercat@austin.rr.com

[Jill Nicholson]

Dear Tom:

Thank you for the update on Sharon.
I continue to hope for the best and pray each day brings some positive news.

Love, Jill

[Allison Buchanan]

Sharon, you rock! You are such a cool, supportive person. I didn't realize how much I missed you until now.
HURRY AND GET WELL!!!
I know. I'm impatient. Get Lily to tell you about it.

[Frances Grant]

Tom,

you are just brilliant. I cannot tell you how much your service to all of us touches me personally. The full and intimately loving way you can write to others at such a time of intense personal journey is astonishing. You are so loving of the wider picture, so upholding of US in your upholding of Sharon and your family. Thank you deeply for your words, your descriptions, your explanations, your outpouring of soft peacefulness.

Sharon and you and your family are much in my heart. The candle in our kitchen is only a little light, yet it kindles the perception of a far greater Light of Faith. Thank you for shining that Light for us all.

with love

Frances

[Tom]

I can feel your love, Steve, thank you along with the wave of love and support coming our way here from so many places around the world. Reppy, thanks for your note and resonance with my post today.

And for everyone - keep your faith and find a place of peace and happiness for yourself and your family as we move through this next week. It's what Sharon has strived to give to all of us around the world.

Tom

[Brocas Walton]

Tom, thank you so much for keeping us so well informed, both inside and out, about Sharon - and you and your family. I have tried calling the number to leave a voice message for Sharon, but so far have been unable to get through, so I leave a writen one below.

We - my family and I - are holding you all in our hearts and talking about you. This is a testing time for so many and I uphold you for all that you are doing and keeping us conected. And I'm inspired by your love and your openness in sharing it with us.

Blessings and Love,
Brocas

Sharon, I've been walking though meadows full of spring buttercups and woods with bluebells and wild garlic, calling your name and seeing you in the light. Have you heard? I know you have faith and I will too, teacher and sister.

I want you back.
With love,
Brocas

[Sue Sneed]

Dear Sharon,

This evening, at 7:30 pm ET , many of your Atlanta friends will be joining together at Lake Avondale. You remember that lovely lake where you and Lily took Jessie to see fireworks one 4th of July. We will gather together, joined by our love for you...we'll share, we'll pray, we'll talk with you, we’ll light candles. We'll hold you in the light in which all things are possible.

We invite anyone who knows and loves you to join us in a world-wide circle of love and healing prayers during this time Sunday night.

Our hearts are with you, Sharon and Tom, Lily, Justin and Lauren...and the entire family circle.

Lovingly,
Sue
Atlanta GA

[Katie Tourville]

Hi Aunt Sharon! You're such an incredible person. It's so hard to just sit here, and not be able to drive down there to see you right now. I can't believe we're about 1500 miles from you! I know, though, that you are in excellent care.

I love you so much! I really hope you get back to yourself, after all of this is over with. I have faith in you, and you are in my prayers!

Love you tons!,
Katie Tourville :)

[Debi Smith]

"All the darkness of the world cannot put out the light of a single candle"

Dear Tom,

What an incredible love you share for your wife and family. To hear your understanding of the woman who mothers your children and shares your life brings warmth to every woman reading. Thank you for adding to the life of this dear woman and giving her the space to do the wonderful work she does. We have all been honored by your presence in her life without even knowing it.

Dear Sharon,
In my M2L weekend experience, I had the honor of seeing how you respected us as people, in the good and in the tense moments. Even in the most difficult moments, I was amazed to see how professional you were, not to get on the level of a problem but draw us up to the wonder of a solution. My life is richer because of my weekend with you. I am thankful and I look forward seeing "She's Awake" on the site.

God Speed,
Debi

[Clare Vivian-Neal]

Dear Sharon, Tom, Justin, Lily and all your family,
Thank you so very much for the updates and the photos. I think of you all often as you go to the hospital and be with all that is happening there. I think of you as you talk to Tinkerbell at home. Sharon has shared many precious stories over the years...
I walked on the beach this morning - Sharon, can you hear as I whisper to you, my dear friend?
Thank you all for your love and sharing of this journey and for including us in in this way. This is a superb use of technology - thank you for setting it up and making it so easy to use.
Tomorrow night we have a Warrior Practice group in Christchurch NZ - we will hold vigil for you all in Austin, sending our love through the night hours to encircle you - 2.30am Tues your time we will begin.
With love Clare V-N

[Charlaine Hood]

Dear Tom:
I find as I read the blog that I am deeply touched by your willingness to include us/me in your journey with hospital, family, medicines and machines. I thank you for allowing me to see the hospital and waiting room and also for the joy in the pictures of family.

Justin: It is your simple words that touch my heart even more. The poems and songs so evoke full memories of Sharon in all her being. I took your suggestion to simply be with her today.

Sharon: Hi beautiful lady, today was a time to be peaceful and send you huge healing and love. I thought of you as I planted flowers in the rain and prayed and sent Reiki for your highest and best healing. My memory is of Richard asking at Power of Love for those in the room to stand that had been touched by you. The room stood as one. This is what I feel is happening around the world as more of us become aware that your physical body needs healing. Powerful warrior, sister of the heart, peace-love-healing be with you and all those who love and support you.

Charlaine

[The Claycamp Family]

Tom, Lily, Gerry, and most of all Sharon,
I have been struggling for days wanting to send some message, but not knowing quite what to say that hasn't already been said. You are clearly surrounded by an unimaginable amount of love and prayers!! I offer you the following verse by Steiner. You are in the thoughts, hopes and prayers of our family!

Upward to thee strive the love of my soul,
Upward to thee flow the stream of my love!
May they sustain thee,
May they enfold thee
In heights of Hope,
In spheres of Love.

Blessings to all of you and your extended family!
Tammi

[Dennis Tourville]

Aunt Sharon, I'm thinking about you and I hope you get better soon.

Love Dennis

[JanetCohen]

Dear Tom, Justin, Lily, Lauren, and loving supporters of Sharon,

The way you are including us in your process is a model of Warrior behavior. Getting both the no and the yes, taking a stand on the truth of it all, and greeting each new moment fully and whole is what I honor in you. Thank you for Being with us.

Tom, Stanley's words rang true for me, too. Find that peace in you, Be with it, and bring it to Sharon. She'll get it.

Love,
Janet, Melody & Joy

[Elaine Alpert]

Dearest Sharon,

You were with us tonight in full glory: In the twilight by the lake with candles lit and beautiful fabric laden with photographs of you in the center of our circle.

We told our favorite Sharon stories and laughed, cried, sang and prayed for your healing--knowing that we don't know what that looks like, but that we do know what we all want.

Someone brought pink roses and one very fragrant rose, a rose of Sharon. We stood on the bridge and tossed clear stones and soft rose petals into the water below, watching the ripples continue on forever. We thought about you and all that you continue to bring this world.

Tonight we are holding you as you sleep.

We are One.

I love you dearly,
Elaine

[Bridget]

I am so moved by who you are as a family, both immediate, blood related, and through More to Life and community. I am so moved to be a part of your family too.

Tom, the respect and admiration you express and act on for Sharon is completely inspiring and has me realize to love full out and not ever hold back. Thank you for sharing it with us.

Justin -- as I tell people about you -- I am consistently surprised and you amaze me more and more each and every day that I know you. I know that is a difficult situation for you, but you are handling it with such grace, strength, and tenderness, that I can see what an excellent son you are, and what an excellent husband and father you will make. Wow.

I told people at work about Sharon yesterday and one woman shared with me that she would send it out to her cats, because they always hold the strongest space for healing to her. She suggested to allow the animal spirits to take care of it, which I thought was touching the way she chose to get involved with a stranger and that she would take action toward supporting, not only Sharon, but her family as well.

I love you ---bridge